Ah jeez, he STILL thinks that he has to “Pay back” for the food and decent treatment? Benni’s got loads of issues. Even when Flora told him that being forced to be with a adult is wrong, he still thinks that it’s just a “Normal” thing to happen. Goodness knows I don’t envy being the therapist that’s going to have to help him sort out all that baggage. But at least they’re in good hands. A few years therapy, a decent household when he’s adopted into a family proper, and some TLC, and he’ll be on the fast track to… Read more »
Damn he has A good heart so willing to sacrifice his self for the others. Though he is badly interpreting the situation he is doing what he thinks of as best for the good of his new family.
Benni obviously has misinterpreted why Colin is allowing them to go naked. I’m hoping that Colin calmly explains what’s going on and that he isn’t going to do anything bad to any of them.
One talk from Flora was not enough for Benni. He had many years of conditioning from his father and will take a long time to “recondition” him. Benni still seems to believe sexing is the only way he can pay for things. Notice how he stated he could only eat one taco. Could it be that he was anticipating he would have to pay back for the meal?
There is some good here as he is showing caring for those younger than himself.
I pity Colin as he is obviously not prepared to deal with this sort of issue.
If I were Colin, I’d realize by now that the “everybody going naked” idea can be interpreted the wrong way-especially by Benni, who probably assumed all along that that was what the naked time was really about, and the only thing to do now is to have everybody put their clothes back on.
I don’t know… On one side of this I can see your perspective being valid and agree. However, from another I can see this as being a good time to demonstrate to Benni that he has a place of safety and that there are those out there that do have his safety and wellbeing as a top priority and that he doesn’t have to ‘pay’ for things like common decency or a full belly. There’s a lot of indoctrination and negative conditioning to work through that would challenge even the most experienced mental health professionals. Between the food and the… Read more »
S.L
5 years ago
#703
I think what really screws this all up and shows how fucked things are for Benni is he’s using some weird terminology. Not screw, not rape, not fuck, not anything normal, he’s saying “sexed” and “sex me” which is showing his age so much. He doesn’t know what’s been happening, he doesn’t realize it’s wrong. He knows it happens for food and for gifts, but not what it is right. Plus the whole Colin and Flora thing, he doesn’t even know couples stay true to each other and don’t normally screw outside of the person they are dating. Or that… Read more »
Jadugara
5 years ago
#704
I have a feeling the talk that Colin is now going to need to have with Benni, not just to correct the behavior, but also to gently reassure him that it’s “OK”, that he’s not “in trouble”, and that he doesn’t need to worry about himself, Kaleb OR Hunter in this safe space…is going to bring tears to my eyes… It’s about to get emotional in a very heart-touching way…
Henski
5 years ago
#706
What you’ve gotten yourself into, Colin, is what’s called a blended family. One that’s blended from four different backgrounds of suffering to one extent or another. All 7 of you have been hurt in some fashion, through no fault of your own.
Poor Benni. The mind of a person is a huge and murky mess, each person dealing with things differently, sometimes the smallest thing can make a huge change in the perceptions and personality of a person, and sometimes huge things can barely register. Couple all of that with how essential our sexuality is to our physiology, how odd and weird and murky human sexuality can be, with attraction and fetish cropping up out of nowhere, or from the weirdest reasons, and you get a small picture of just how hard it is to put aside what you’ve been taught is… Read more »
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Ah jeez, he STILL thinks that he has to “Pay back” for the food and decent treatment? Benni’s got loads of issues. Even when Flora told him that being forced to be with a adult is wrong, he still thinks that it’s just a “Normal” thing to happen. Goodness knows I don’t envy being the therapist that’s going to have to help him sort out all that baggage. But at least they’re in good hands. A few years therapy, a decent household when he’s adopted into a family proper, and some TLC, and he’ll be on the fast track to… Read more »
One step forward, two steps back.
Damn he has A good heart so willing to sacrifice his self for the others. Though he is badly interpreting the situation he is doing what he thinks of as best for the good of his new family.
Benni obviously has misinterpreted why Colin is allowing them to go naked. I’m hoping that Colin calmly explains what’s going on and that he isn’t going to do anything bad to any of them.
I see we still have a ways to go… 🙁
One talk from Flora was not enough for Benni. He had many years of conditioning from his father and will take a long time to “recondition” him. Benni still seems to believe sexing is the only way he can pay for things. Notice how he stated he could only eat one taco. Could it be that he was anticipating he would have to pay back for the meal?
There is some good here as he is showing caring for those younger than himself.
I pity Colin as he is obviously not prepared to deal with this sort of issue.
If I were Colin, I’d realize by now that the “everybody going naked” idea can be interpreted the wrong way-especially by Benni, who probably assumed all along that that was what the naked time was really about, and the only thing to do now is to have everybody put their clothes back on.
I don’t know… On one side of this I can see your perspective being valid and agree. However, from another I can see this as being a good time to demonstrate to Benni that he has a place of safety and that there are those out there that do have his safety and wellbeing as a top priority and that he doesn’t have to ‘pay’ for things like common decency or a full belly. There’s a lot of indoctrination and negative conditioning to work through that would challenge even the most experienced mental health professionals. Between the food and the… Read more »
I think what really screws this all up and shows how fucked things are for Benni is he’s using some weird terminology. Not screw, not rape, not fuck, not anything normal, he’s saying “sexed” and “sex me” which is showing his age so much. He doesn’t know what’s been happening, he doesn’t realize it’s wrong. He knows it happens for food and for gifts, but not what it is right. Plus the whole Colin and Flora thing, he doesn’t even know couples stay true to each other and don’t normally screw outside of the person they are dating. Or that… Read more »
I have a feeling the talk that Colin is now going to need to have with Benni, not just to correct the behavior, but also to gently reassure him that it’s “OK”, that he’s not “in trouble”, and that he doesn’t need to worry about himself, Kaleb OR Hunter in this safe space…is going to bring tears to my eyes… It’s about to get emotional in a very heart-touching way…
What you’ve gotten yourself into, Colin, is what’s called a blended family. One that’s blended from four different backgrounds of suffering to one extent or another. All 7 of you have been hurt in some fashion, through no fault of your own.
Poor Benni. The mind of a person is a huge and murky mess, each person dealing with things differently, sometimes the smallest thing can make a huge change in the perceptions and personality of a person, and sometimes huge things can barely register. Couple all of that with how essential our sexuality is to our physiology, how odd and weird and murky human sexuality can be, with attraction and fetish cropping up out of nowhere, or from the weirdest reasons, and you get a small picture of just how hard it is to put aside what you’ve been taught is… Read more »
Sigh. I feel so bad for Benni sometimes; he still thinks every adult man is just another pedo. We still have a long way to go
Yea, was wondering when Benni’s trauma would be triggered.